Playing It Safe

I’ve recently said that I’m no risk taker.  Playing it safe is easy and comfortable but it has been keeping me in the same place.  I won’t reach each my true potential there.  So this girl, who always played it safe, knew there was some decisions to be.  It was time to gamble.

I rolled my first dice.  I took a chance applying for a job through a family friend.  It isn’t exactly what I’m looking for, but I always said I would keep an open mind .  It almost didn’t happen.  I talked myself out of my decision, and then negotiated with myself to delay it.  I changed my mind quite a few times, but weighed my options.  Comfort and familiarity versus, my happiness (or lack thereof),  stifling my potential, and my bigger dreams.

So I went for it.  As of right now, nothing has become of it, and maybe nothing will come of it.  However, I can’t ignore the fact that I did something I was initially so nervous about.  Maybe even afraid of doing.  And it hit me, this isn’t so bad.  This isn’t so hard.  I felt a rush of determination, and motivation, that will give me the drive I need as continue on.

So I’ll be rolling more dices,  and taking more chances.    I don’t know where I’ll end up for sure, but I know one thing, I’m through playing it safe.

Learning To Say NO

“Hey, can I borrow….?”

“Hey, can you cover me?”

“Hey, I need a favor.”

I’ve always had a problem telling people no.  I never took the time to figure out why that is.  I say yes, when what I really want to do is say, “no”.

I have always done favors and covered for others when it really was at my own detriment.  I have worked myself tired to help out coworkers, when I really wanted nothing to do with their project.  But I’m a team player and a good friend.

My problem was I was more concerned about someone else’s feelings that my own.  Neglecting myself, and putting others ahead of myself.  Its a constant pattern in my life, that I’m trying curtail.

So I’ve learned to say “no”.  I couldn’t continue to punish myself, to the benefit of everyone else.  The next step I’m working on, is saying “no”, and not feeling guilty about it.

All or Nothing

In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “All or Nothing?.”

All or Nothing.  As with most things in life it is all about balance.  The trouble begins when we try to strike the balance, or tip the scale in one direction.

I’ve never met a person who wants nothing, has no dreams, who lacks ambition, and has no goals in life.  I’ve met people who may have stumbled on their way, but never people who want nothing.  This is a sad place to be.  What becomes your reason for living?  Whats your reason for living when you have nothing to look forward to, nothing that inspires and motivates you?

It could be argued that some may want nothing because they feel they have it all already, or they are satisfied with their life.  However, even those who feel they have it all or are content, want something.  Maybe not for themselves, but perhaps for others.  Maybe they have things they want for their children, grandchildren, and maybe they have bigger dreams for the world, so they dedicate themselves to philanthropy.  These people don’t kick their feet up, clap their hands and declare, “that’s it”.

The extreme to nothing is everything.  The trouble with wanting everything is that it is a grand task.  First where do you begin, and how do you begin?  And what happens when the plan that you’ve drawn up in your head or on paper, hits a hiccup or a road block?  Suddenly, the task became more challenging.

I’ve said before I’m a simple girl. My own goals and aspirations aren’t grand. By some standards, they are simple and realistic.  Yet, they are still challenging and I find myself struggling sometimes, which leads me to question myself, and in turn question everything.  I can only imagine what it would be like if I had huge dreams and wanted everything.

These are extremes on opposite ends.  If your heading too far in one direction, it is going to be a struggle.

Versatile Blogger Award

Thank You Simply Haynes and Into the Forgotten for Nominating for the Versatile Blogger Award.  The rules are as followed:

  • Show the award on your blog.
  • Thank the person who nominated you.
  • Share 7 facts about yourself.
  • Nominate 15 blogs.
  • Link your nominees’ blogs, and let them know.

7 Facts about Me:

  1. I go through reading phrases.  I’m go through mystery phrases, romance, etc.  What this means is, when I get into a particular genre, its all I read, until I get into the next genre, and that will be all I read, until….you get the picture.
  2. I never learned how to ride a bike as a child and I still don’t know how to ride a bike.
  3. I don’t know how to swim.
  4. I have a fear of birds
  5. Math and Science were my worse subjects in school….in all levels, elementary, middle school, high school and college.
  6. I do a lot of thinking, especially when there is a big decision to make.  Some might say I’m an over thinker.
  7. I’m not good with new people

Now My Nominees

Risk Taker

I am anything but.

I’ve always played it safe.

Playing it safe is easy.  It is comfortable.  It is consistent.  It is predictable.

I didn’t beat my chest and excitedly and declare that I would take more risks in the new year.  I may have said it to myself in the shower once or twice, or while I was laying in bed.

Its one thing to say those things to yourself, its another when you have a decision that actually involves some risks.  Playing it safe has always worked for me.   I’ve realize for some time now, that playing it safe has made me complacent.  It isn’t getting me where I want to be.  It is getting me nowhere.

So here I am, I have some decisions to make.  Its scary, but I’m up to taking some risks.

“A ship is safe in harbor, but that’s not what ships are for.”
-John A. Shedd

So Tell Me About Yourself

Its the first questions in nearly every interview.   I know its coming.  Even with all my preparation, I’ve never quite felt comfortable with my “elevator speech”.  I use to think it was because I thought I sound too rehearsed, but I soon figured out what my problem was.

The first few blog assignments for blogging 101 included  tasks like answering the question “who are you and why are you here”, and working on your “about me” page.

What the tasks and interview question have in common is that they are all about me.  I read this post by fellow blogger, and was immediately like, ME TOO!

I don’t know why I’m so uncomfortable talking about myself.  I like myself.  Maybe its because I think people want to hear something interesting.  Maybe its because I don’t think I’m all that interesting.

I’m just a regular girl.  I love to read, I love various kinds of  music, and willing to give any kind a try.  I love museums, football games, a nice walk , except  while its cold.  I don’t enjoy shopping much, and don’t know a thing about make up.  I’m in my mid twenties, and I’m trying to find my way.  I’ve got my insecurities like everyone else.  I question myself , maybe a little too much, but I’m working on it.  Its all normal though.  Nothing that blows anyone away, I’m just me.

Sisterhood Of The World Bloggers Award

Thank You to Beauty Marks for nominating me for the Sisterhood of The World Bloggers Award.  I apologize for not addressing this sooner.

What do you hope to accomplish with your blog in the next year?  I hope to be a consistent blogger and while I’m at it, become a better writer.

What prompted you to start blogging?  I started to blog because I always felt like I had a lot to say, but never do.  I always enjoyed other bloggers, but have always been intimidated about putting my stuff out there, but here I am, giving it a shot.

Do you think a good writer has to be a good reader?  It depends on what one defines as a good reader

Tell me about your happiest moment.  My happiest moment was when I started my weight loss, and started noticing progress the very first time.  I started to really believe that I could do this.

What inspired your latest post?  My last posts was inspired by the struggle I am having navigating a new friendship.

Now, go back to your first post, has your writing style changed at all?  I don’t think so, I don’t believe I have developed a writing style as yet.

Do your friends & family read your blog?  No, they do not.  There are very few people who know much I love writing.  I do plan to share  this blog with them.

What’s your favorite meal?  I was born in Jamaica, so I love oxtail with rice and peas, ackee and salt fish, curry goat.   I can pick any Jamaican dish

What is your biggest motivation?  My biggest motivation is myself

Where do you see yourself in 5 years?  In five years, I see myself being more sure of myself.  Less questioning myself and my ability.  I see myself in a career and job I actually love.  Maybe published somewhere.  You never know.

Here are my questions to my nominates.

  1. Why did you start blogging?
  2. How long have your been blogging?
  3. What do you hope to accomplish with your blog?
  4. What is your favorite thing to blog about?
  5. What is your favorite food?
  6. What are your favorite hobbies?
  7. How would your friends and family describe you?
  8. Name a time you had to overcome an obstacle
  9. Name something you would do on lazy, rainy day?
  10. What is your best achievement?

My Nominates.