“Hey, can I borrow….?”
“Hey, can you cover me?”
“Hey, I need a favor.”
I’ve always had a problem telling people no. I never took the time to figure out why that is. I say yes, when what I really want to do is say, “no”.
I have always done favors and covered for others when it really was at my own detriment. I have worked myself tired to help out coworkers, when I really wanted nothing to do with their project. But I’m a team player and a good friend.
My problem was I was more concerned about someone else’s feelings that my own. Neglecting myself, and putting others ahead of myself. Its a constant pattern in my life, that I’m trying curtail.
So I’ve learned to say “no”. I couldn’t continue to punish myself, to the benefit of everyone else. The next step I’m working on, is saying “no”, and not feeling guilty about it.